The Scales of Love

I was reading an article on CNN today"Saving Black Marriages" (Tina Matherson )about the Woodbury's a successful black couple that appeared to be perfect. but not full filled in their marriage of thirteen years. Why is this such a common complaint in marriages or relationships on gives to much the other takes to much or gives to less, I don't believe any relationship can be exactly 50/50 their is always going to be more giving or taking in most situations and someone always seems to suffer, if you disagree tell me what you think? I admit I don't always give as much as I can because at times I think he isn't, so I resist and then he resists and then the bullshit begins, so whats the solution? Well for that particular couple they decided to go to couples counseling, and that's great, but all of us cant afford to go to couples counseling and all of us don't trust our Ministers enough to tell them all our business and then sit in the audience on Sunday morning wondering if the entire choir knows you haven't had sex in 3 months. So again whats the solution?, can we really give each other 50/50 or will the scales of love always be unbalanced. Let me know your thoughts? are things equal in your relationship, are you giving equally. keep it real or keep it to yourself!!