Don't get me wrong, As I got older I loved a brother that has his own money, and after being blindsided by love, I was the one who married the multi million dollar athlete in my twenties, something I never expected, and less than six months after I met him. A southern boy from Texas who swept me off my feet he had all the southern charm that would make any women be smittened. He loved his momma, we were head over heels in love. He treated me like no other man had before I met him, he sheltered me, he loved and took care of me and my daughter and he eventually broke my heart. He took me places I could only imagine and provided a life for me and my daughter I only dreamed of.
We stayed together for seven years. The lifestyle the love affair was like a whirlwind romance. I always put him and his career first and never thought about my future and never considered "what about me" at this point I only had a high school diploma and back then my only plans were to his trophy wife. I came from a small town with two working parents and college wasnt the main conversation at the dinner table, for that matter by the time I was considering college I was preparing for motherhood at seventeen.
Once we were married; over time things changed and the signs became evident and something had to change. I needed to build some security for myself and my daughter. 2 day road trips for him turned into four and I quickly became the Seasonal Wife! The more time he spent on the road, the more time I began to prepare for a future for myself, being alone forces you to deal with yourself and at some point you have to ask yourself "what is my worth" and whats going to happen if he decides not to come back? or trade me in for another model? Any wife in my position has had that thought cross her mind, and if she says she didnt, she's a damn lie!
Yes, I knew he loved me, and I will always have love for him, but love just isn't enough. I enrolled myself in College and began to work on my BA degree and when I finished the more independent I became & I knew I had something that was mine and no one could take it away from me.
Unfourtantly, our marriage ended in divorce and it played out in the media like a typical soap opera. As my dirty laundry aired all over ESPN I realized the man I married was not the person I fell in love with and despite all the pain I held my head high and I never said one negative thing about him.
Athletes tend to try to be true to all the people around them and most of those people are not looking out for their best interest. As my life fell apart, I pushed forward for the sake of my daughter and the fact that Im no quitter. What I want you ladies to take from this lesson, is no matter who your married to and how much money he makes, invest in yourself, there is nothing like having your own security. Who said you can't be a fabouous wife a devoted mother and maintain and be independant? Prepare for your future, nothing last forever.
I believe we should be with our mate because we want to be and not because we have to be. I have since remarried to a working class man, we have built a great business together, Im a writer and enterpuerer and soon my first book will be published. I continue to educate myself,you can never have to many degrees! my husband is 100% supportive of all the things I do. No one can do this alone and if you think you can, your foolish.
Write me your comments, opinions I would love to hear what you have to say. Keep it real or Keep it to yourself.
Blessings
Snichole
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